My boyfriend doesn’t come to dinner when my friends are around because he says they make him feel uncomfortable. How can I convince him to turn up?
I was in love with a woman for a very long time. She didn’t reciprocate my feelings and didn’t ever go out on a date with me, so I abandoned all hope of dating her and began going out with other people. I eventually married, but it didn’t last and we were divorced a year ago. I recently ran into the woman I was in love with a few weeks ago, and we chatted for a while. She told me that she was single too, and said she would be happy to go out with me for a cup of coffee or even dinner. I don’t know if I should though. She rejected me all those years ago, which hurt. What if she is simply stringing me along this time? I don’t know if I will be able to cope with rejection again. At the same time, I can’t seem to get her out of my mind. What should I do?
People change. The feelings you may have had for someone may no longer exist, so why assume her feelings towards you have stayed the same? I also find it mildly presumptuous of you to assume that she wants to get into a relationship with you simply because she has agreed to go out to dinner or a cup of coffee. Why not meet her, see what she has to say and then decide to worry about the possibility of being rejected again? Maybe she just wants to catch up with you after all these years, so try not to jump the gun. Life is about taking chances; take this one.
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