My wife doesn’t like the idea of having sex more than once a week. She says she doesn’t have the time, but I think she’s being unfair. What can I do about this?
You simply have to figure out a compromise of sorts because sex is about two people agreeing to do it. You guys are adults. Figure it out.
I am 20, and so is the guy I am in love with. We have been together for a year. In November last year, I decided to open up and speak about my previous relationship. I assured my current boyfriend that I would never do something like that again and would always stand by his side because I am now mature enough to tell right from wrong. It doesn’t seem to work out though. He gets anxiety attacks when he thinks of how another guy has touched me before him. I can’t see him suffering because of something I did. At the same time, he doesn’t even want to break up with me. I am in a dilemma. What do I do? Break up or try something else? I cannot see him like this because I love him.
— Munisa K
To begin with, blaming yourself for an earlier relationship is wrong. Your current boyfriend really has no right to comment or feel ‘anxious’ about something you did earlier, simply because that is your business alone. If it’s a physical aspect of that relationship bothering him, he needs to understand that your body is yours alone. I’m not sure why he insists on letting your past cloud his future with you. Sit him down, get him to understand that you are with him at the moment, and ask him to let you go if he can’t let go of your past. Without him doing this, your future with him looks bleak. Also, remember that your past shapes you, for better or worse. Don’t let an insecure boyfriend make you feel bad about your past.