My girlfriend and I like watching movies together, but we can’t afford to go out too often because tickets are expensive. I have asked her to watch them with me on my laptop but she says I’m being cheap. What do I do?
I want to have an open relationship and go out with a number of girls, because I believe the idea of monogamy is difficult for me to accept. My current girlfriend doesn’t want to do this though, because she believes in being with just one person. I didn’t tell her how I felt when we started going out, and she has been accusing me of misleading her all along. I didn’t cheat on her though. I have tried to get her to understand why I feel this way, but she has given me an ultimatum and asked me to end the relationship if I can’t be with her alone. Is she being a prude or am I being unreasonable?
A relationship is about two people trying to find common ground. What you want is so far from what your current girlfriend desires, that I find it strange how the two of you decided to make a go of it in the first place. If monogamy isn’t something you believe in, she’s right about the fact that this is something you ought to have made clear to her at the start, rather than compel her to deal with it now. She is not being a prude. If she believes in a committed relationship and you don’t, there is no point in trying to make this work anymore. Monogamy may not be for everyone, but it’s impossible without your partner sharing your views. Without that consent, it’s just called cheating.
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